Hi there lovelies! Whew! What a week it has been. A very long, very weird week. A lot of the snow that’s hit the rest of the East Coast (Including my NC home) manifested in torrential rain here in Florida. As in monsoon, ankle deep in my cute black buckle boots rain. It’s taken us both several days to recover.
In that vein, as many of you likely know today is the last day of NEDA (National Eating Disorder Awareness Week). I was at first confused, then comforted, then thrilled to see a series of happy yellow post its on every mirror in the ladies’ rooms in my department this week. I was however, not thrilled to hear some very astonishingly rude and insensitive remarks come from people who saw them. While I’m happy to see a lot more sensitivity around eating disorders (ED) including some fantastic activism, this shows that there is still work to be done.
I have a little mantra that I always say to myself and to others if they will listen:
You never know what someone’s story is.
And you don’t, unless they tell you. Words are extremely powerful and can at once cut like swords and soothe like chamomile tea. Be careful about the language you use when talking about any sensitive issue. You never know who in the room has dealt with trauma, identifies against the gender binary, is LGBTQI-identified, or is in ED recovery (or has recovered). Always be sensitive.
Along those lines, if you make a faux pas and do say something insensitive around someone whose past you know and understand please, PLEASE approach them INDIVIDUALLY. And apologize. Tell them, straight up: “That was insensitive of me. And I’m sorry. It was brave of you to share X with me, and that was very irresponsible of me.”
As activists and advocates, words are our weapons. Wield them with care.
Now! For a few links and thoughts on recent events (both within and outside of my own little life) that relate to The Vegan Body.
Gena Hamshaw of the blog Choosing Raw is an ED survivor and very bravely shared her story of recovery on her blog this week.
I really appreciate Gena’s thoughtful handling of a painful and tender subject for many of us. She attends to her ED and recovery in an approachable way that truly shows inner strength and is such an inspiration. In fact, this article inspired me to write up today’s post and mention the bit at the top about language. I appluad Gena for her sensitivity and care in all of her writing, especially when it comes to handling ED.
I’ve always been interested in eating lots of raw fruits and vegetables, and especially RAW DESSERTS!! I’m hankering to make these raw tahini cups. Also, I’ve been pinning a lot more lately and collecting recipes to make each week (part of my New Year’s goals). Which brings me to:
FRIDA! I have a Frida board, check it out! I’m writing a paper about her this term and loving the research that’s involved.
Also, I love this post about having Frida and Diego houses (my ideal if I am ever to be in a long term relationship).
New haircut! (A couple of weeks old now.) Should I retouch my black underdye? Or let it grow out? Thoughts? Not sure yet. Luckily, I can leave it be for a good while until I decide.
Self-care is something I’ve thought a lot about this week. Suddenly, after years of thinking about it and intentionally practicing self-care it’s coming more naturally to me. I’ve started to baby myself when I need it and feel ok with that instead of guilty about it. Grad school, what a transformation you have been.
Love this post from a while back on the topic.
Thai food! I got some the other night after my loooonnnngggg and weird week and it was just the thing to help me relax. Also Netflix. Netflix always helps me relax.
SUMMER ROLLS FOR DAYS!
Yup. Pretty much it these days.
Mhm. Literally ankle (now knee, maybe thigh, ok waist) deep in books.
Maybe my new go-to box brand? It’s gluten free and tasty. A bit more expensive than the others I’ve tried but it’s also a much bigger box! Which is good because an active lady like me needs that. And I like to have leftovers.
Ah-HA! Now we get to the goods. I recently found this website and it’s kept me amused for the past several days. Especially the cat costumes. Oh, the cat costumes. Also, apparently cat wine? Not sure how I feel about it, but an amusing browse nonetheless for all of you fellow crazy cat parents out there.
Enjoy your weekend! Be safe out there if it’s snowing (or monsooning).