I’ve been so glad to see more and more articles and stories on the interwebs about LGBT+ issues in the past weeks. Issues surrounding gender, race, and sexuality are finally being talking about in what I hope is a progressive way. I was glad to see this article in the Guardian about domestic violence in the queer community, an issue that often goes unnoticed perhaps especially with regard to trans folks. Now that marriage equality has been achieved, it’s time to attack some of these other issues: violence especially toward trans folks and queer people of color, workplace discrimination, overturning discriminatory state laws that allow persecution of LGBT+ folks “based on religious freedom,” domestic violence in the queer community, and the white cis male domination of the community in popular culture and media.
I’m so, so overwhelmingly happy about the SCOTUS decision last week! With that amazing step in the right direction comes a very sad realization for a lot of us–that we have so, so far to go as a species. With this glimmer of hope is the realization that we have a lot of fighting left to do. Hey allies! Don’t forget that! We still need you! I’ve been pretty pleasantly surprised to see the media nodding to this fact, as seen here.
I loved reading this article. Just yesterday I was tatcalled at least 3 times while out shopping, minding my own business, trying to find a new wallet. The one hole in this article is the occasional genuine interest and awe that some people have toward others’ ink. My Alice in Wonderland half sleeve receives a lot of attention, most often from people who love the book or who are genuinely interested in talking to me about my experience getting a sleeve. I’m happy to talk to those people, and that’s just a good reminder that approach and how you articulate interest in someone’s tattoos really determines not only the dialogue you might or might not have with them but also their comfort level. If I’m out and someone, honestly especially men, call out to me about my tattoos or try to touch them I’m extremely uncomfortable.
Going through the process of tattooing, planning, and caring for my ink is not an invitation to be touched by strangers which is (as this article suggests) a violation of not only the female body by the male gaze and touch but also of bodily autonomy in general. An issue near and dear to my heart. Again: most tattooed people are happy to talk to you and are probably used to talking to complete strangers about their tattoos. Remember: don’t touch, it feels just like normal skin, be kind, don’t stare, don’t be creepy, and approach a tattooed person respectfully. If you get a vibe that they just want to be left alone, be polite and just back off. Something I’m always struggling with is balancing my needs with being polite to tattoo starers and askers. Any suggestions on how to nicely end conversations you’re not prepared for and aren’t comfortable having from time to time? I’m thinking a simple: “Thank you for the compliments on my ink, but I’m really just trying to get my shopping done.” might be what I start turning to.
One of my favorite columns, the Stella Grey weekly write-up, amuses me to no end. She’s sort of like a grown up Bridget Jones. My guilty summer pleasure, other than an ice cream of course.
A fun post on some amazing books to read this summer. A little appetizer for my huge book list that I hope to publish in the coming weeks.And I’ll get around to doing a podcast round up too. Soon! So soon! Any particular ones you’d like to hear about? I listen to a lot of them so it’ll be a mix of vegan, pop culture, nerdiness, and progressive politics. Let me know if there’s a genre you’d like to know more about.